tamakitty710
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Well, this has been happening for a while, but only lately has it really ticked me off. My "best friend" will get mad at the littlest and stupidest things! She tries to make me jealous by hanging out with people I don't like, but I don't really care. I know she does. She warns me when I'm about to make her mad. She'll say "If you do blah, I'll hang out with Soandso!" It's really annoying. I know she does this to get her way. Anyways, the latest one was REALLY stupid. It's something that a little toddler would get mad over! (No offense to any toddlers on TamaTalk ;D If there are any....). In art class we did tangrams, and I messed up my sheet (you had to try to figure out how to make the pictures on the sheet with the pieces, and you had to use all of them.). She just copied me, and I realized that I got some of them wrong. So this one girl had an extra, and my "best friend" (let's call her A.) just grabs the sheet when the other girl was going to give it to me! So I said "A, I'm the one who needs it." and she said "Well, you should have gotten it first." So I grabbed it and said "Hey, I'm the one who actually did the work. All you did was copy me." and she started ignoring me! So I'm like "Oh my gosh, it's a stupid sheet. Here, just take it." and I gave it to her. She just turned and ignored me. So I took the sheet and just ignored her back. Even when I tried apologizing, she would ignore me! It's really annoying.
Another time we both went to a friend's birthday party. We were having fun and stuff, and the friend (who was having the party, let's call her M.) had a Wii. So we were all playing it, except for A. I played it (since I kept beating the high scores and people would challenge me ;D) for a while, and I stopped. She was showing M something on her phone, and I wanted to see. So I leaned over to look, and she pushed me away from her. So I asked her nicely, "May I see?" and she just said "No." So then she goes over to M and started showing her RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME! So once she knew I was upset, she started going around the room and letting people look at it. When I tried to look, though, A and M just shoved me away. It really hurt my feelings.... So I started to cry. She just shrugged it off. Other people were all "Oh, are you okay?" and "What's wrong? Can I help?" being the nice friends they are ;D M and A just completely ignored the situation. M and I were REALLY good friends, too. Same with A, but I was kind of used to this sort of thing. I guess A and M were even better friends.... So we ate and stuff, and M was all "Tamakitty! ((name replaced with username ;D)) Hellooo! C'mon! What's wrong?" and I just ignored her because she ignored me. The party was over (I was in the corner the rest of the time....) and I went into the car and started crying. My dad was REALLY mad. He was all "You know, A isn't that good of a friend. Did she say why she did this?" and I said "I'll call her and tell her not to come over." (We were going to have a sleepover that weekend. Didn't happen.). He said "No, if she's the one who did something wrong, she'll call." So I waited. She didn't call. I waited for the next school day to see if she was over it, but she wasn't. I was still mad at M, but I asked her why she did that and stuff. She was really upset about it and apologized a lot. I forgave her (since she seemed kinda sad about it, too.) and asked her why she did it again. She said "I don't know! Probably because A was doing it, too, and I was hanging out with her." So I asked her to ask A why she did it. She did, and said that A said that I didn't spend enough time with her during the party. WE WERE GOING TO HAVE A SLEEPOVER THAT WEEKEND!!! So then I gave her notes like "Why did you get mad at me for that? Why didn't you just tell me so I could spend more time with you?" Instead of telling me, she drew me a pie chart saying what I did during the party. There was a tiny sliver that said "Time with me." I was really mad. So I said "Look, you made me cry. I didn't make you cry, you were being really mean and snotty to me. I think you owe me an apology." She just ignored it. So I asked M to tell her, and M said that A said "I won't forgive her until she apologizes to me."
!!!!! I was like "Are you SERIOUS?" M confirmed it multiple times. That made me MAD. I said "Look, if she wants to be my friend, she'll apologize to me. I'm sick and tired of her making ME apologize to her for things I didn't even do." M nodded and told her, but still nothing. Weeks went by. I was fine, but she was having a weird meltdown. M was all "She really wants to be your friend." and I said "Well, if she wants to be my friend, she'd apologize. She knows what she has to do to be my friend." Still nothing. At that point I didn't care.
Eventually a teacher made us make up. It was weird.... Of course, she went alphabetically by last names, so I had to go first. Her last name starts with a W, how am I going to compete with that? xD So we were friends until the art thing. We're still mad at each other, and it's spring break, so I don't really care now. I made a new best friend.... She was usually on my side of what should happen. ;D
Anyways, what should I do with A? It wasn't like this when we were first friends, but I don't know what to do anymore!
Have any of you ever dealt with a friend who gets mad over the littlest things?
If so, advice would me much appreciated!
Thanks in advance!
♪~tamakitty710
Another time we both went to a friend's birthday party. We were having fun and stuff, and the friend (who was having the party, let's call her M.) had a Wii. So we were all playing it, except for A. I played it (since I kept beating the high scores and people would challenge me ;D) for a while, and I stopped. She was showing M something on her phone, and I wanted to see. So I leaned over to look, and she pushed me away from her. So I asked her nicely, "May I see?" and she just said "No." So then she goes over to M and started showing her RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME! So once she knew I was upset, she started going around the room and letting people look at it. When I tried to look, though, A and M just shoved me away. It really hurt my feelings.... So I started to cry. She just shrugged it off. Other people were all "Oh, are you okay?" and "What's wrong? Can I help?" being the nice friends they are ;D M and A just completely ignored the situation. M and I were REALLY good friends, too. Same with A, but I was kind of used to this sort of thing. I guess A and M were even better friends.... So we ate and stuff, and M was all "Tamakitty! ((name replaced with username ;D)) Hellooo! C'mon! What's wrong?" and I just ignored her because she ignored me. The party was over (I was in the corner the rest of the time....) and I went into the car and started crying. My dad was REALLY mad. He was all "You know, A isn't that good of a friend. Did she say why she did this?" and I said "I'll call her and tell her not to come over." (We were going to have a sleepover that weekend. Didn't happen.). He said "No, if she's the one who did something wrong, she'll call." So I waited. She didn't call. I waited for the next school day to see if she was over it, but she wasn't. I was still mad at M, but I asked her why she did that and stuff. She was really upset about it and apologized a lot. I forgave her (since she seemed kinda sad about it, too.) and asked her why she did it again. She said "I don't know! Probably because A was doing it, too, and I was hanging out with her." So I asked her to ask A why she did it. She did, and said that A said that I didn't spend enough time with her during the party. WE WERE GOING TO HAVE A SLEEPOVER THAT WEEKEND!!! So then I gave her notes like "Why did you get mad at me for that? Why didn't you just tell me so I could spend more time with you?" Instead of telling me, she drew me a pie chart saying what I did during the party. There was a tiny sliver that said "Time with me." I was really mad. So I said "Look, you made me cry. I didn't make you cry, you were being really mean and snotty to me. I think you owe me an apology." She just ignored it. So I asked M to tell her, and M said that A said "I won't forgive her until she apologizes to me."
!!!!! I was like "Are you SERIOUS?" M confirmed it multiple times. That made me MAD. I said "Look, if she wants to be my friend, she'll apologize to me. I'm sick and tired of her making ME apologize to her for things I didn't even do." M nodded and told her, but still nothing. Weeks went by. I was fine, but she was having a weird meltdown. M was all "She really wants to be your friend." and I said "Well, if she wants to be my friend, she'd apologize. She knows what she has to do to be my friend." Still nothing. At that point I didn't care.
Eventually a teacher made us make up. It was weird.... Of course, she went alphabetically by last names, so I had to go first. Her last name starts with a W, how am I going to compete with that? xD So we were friends until the art thing. We're still mad at each other, and it's spring break, so I don't really care now. I made a new best friend.... She was usually on my side of what should happen. ;D
Anyways, what should I do with A? It wasn't like this when we were first friends, but I don't know what to do anymore!
Have any of you ever dealt with a friend who gets mad over the littlest things?
If so, advice would me much appreciated!
Thanks in advance!
♪~tamakitty710