Your mom threw you through a wall? Wow...thats bit extreme, looks like you guys either need some family counseling or you need to move in with your dad if they do end up splitting up. There is a difference between disciplining your kids, and abusing them, sometimes it is a fine line between the two but if you put your kid through a wall then you got some serious thinking to do.
I love my mom. I treated her like crap when I was a teenager and I feel horrible about it now. Back then I disliked my mom because of the man she was with and the way he treated her and us, but when he was gone, everything went back to normal. Now, I am an adult, and I couldnt imagine ever not loving her in any way. My father on the other hand.....well we will just say that I am glad he got cancer and I hope it rots away his insides in a very painful manner. I hate that man with a passion for the things he did to my mother and the things he tried to do to my brother.
Your parents (usually) are doing what they think is best for you. They love you, no matter what. But sometimes they dont see the whole picture of something and the blame gets put in the wrong place. They also dont listen sometimes, but it is not intentional. Just remember that they have a hectic life too and you just have to have patience with them sometimes. If your parent(s) have upset you for some reason, (and I know this sounds corny, but it really is worth it) sit down with them and talk. Even if its only for a few minutes to get things off your chest. Because they dont know things unless you tell them! They arent mind readers!