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Poll: insert sarcastic title here (25 member(s) have cast votes)

Do you currently have or have ever had someone you love?

  1. Yes; close relative/other (6 votes [24.00%])

    Percentage of vote: 24.00%

  2. Yes; romantic interest (11 votes [44.00%])

    Percentage of vote: 44.00%

  3. No; I don't believe in that (0 votes [0.00%])

    Percentage of vote: 0.00%

  4. No; never really knew anything like that (1 votes [4.00%])

    Percentage of vote: 4.00%

  5. No; I's be a stone-cold loner (4 votes [16.00%])

    Percentage of vote: 16.00%

  6. Prefer not to respond (3 votes [12.00%])

    Percentage of vote: 12.00%

Just a crush?

  1. yes (4 votes [16.00%])

    Percentage of vote: 16.00%

  2. heck yes (3 votes [12.00%])

    Percentage of vote: 12.00%

  3. no (15 votes [60.00%])

    Percentage of vote: 60.00%

  4. I don't believe in love (0 votes [0.00%])

    Percentage of vote: 0.00%

  5. Everyone I know is an idiot (2 votes [8.00%])

    Percentage of vote: 8.00%

  6. prefer not to respond (1 votes [4.00%])

    Percentage of vote: 4.00%

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dazzilitchigirl

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Posted 15 October 2013 - 09:56 AM ( #18 )

"Until"?  When?  More like if.  Sometimes there is never a time to find someone.  Unless you're bored and have nothing else to do.
 
 
Not necessarily always from boredom...when you want friendship in a <3 way.  But if you just want to "find someone" for the sake of finding someone, without real friendship, then that is not real love - that is the pinnacle of boredom.
 
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I gather that you're talking about break-ups...they're not always that simple; breaking up with someone doesn't mean you were lying when you said you loved them. It just means the person or the relationship has changed and you no longer want to be in that relationship. Love isn't under people's control; it would be great if it was, but it's not. If you've stopped loving someone, you either pretend to love them or you end the relationship. Fake love hurts people more in the end, so the best thing is to end the relationship.

Edited by TamaMum, 18 October 2013 - 01:35 AM.
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Posted 15 October 2013 - 10:07 AM ( #19 )

I gather that you're talking about break-ups...they're not always that simple; breaking up with someone doesn't mean you were lying when you said you loved them. It just means the person or the relationship has changed and you no longer want to be in that relationship. Love isn't under people's control; it would be great if it was, but it's not. If you've stopped loving someone, you either pretend to love them or you end the relationship. Fake love hurts people more in the end, so the best thing is to end the relationship.

Yes, love can only really end if one(or both) change, which cause the other person to longer like that person, or of-course one of them was in love with something about the person that was going to change anyway(E.g.:looks), but that's not real love.

Love normally shouldn't really end.

 

Love is controllable since it starts out slowly. If you let yourself just fall in "love" with a random person you see, that's really your own fault.



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Posted 15 October 2013 - 08:33 PM ( #20 )

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Edited by TamaMum, 18 October 2013 - 01:35 AM.


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Posted 16 October 2013 - 04:16 AM ( #21 )

There are some things you just have to accept, and one is that love isn't controlled by people. Yes, you can repress crushes if you know it's the wrong person, but trying to control true love won't have good results for most people.

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Posted 16 October 2013 - 04:20 AM ( #22 )

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Edited by The Ultimate Doomer, 18 October 2013 - 01:32 AM.

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Posted 16 October 2013 - 05:49 AM ( #23 )

It's not my opinion. It's true that most people don't control who they are in love with. Crushes can often be controlled, but not true love.

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Edited by TamaMum, 18 October 2013 - 01:38 AM.
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Posted 16 October 2013 - 06:03 AM ( #24 )

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Posted 16 October 2013 - 10:57 AM ( #25 )

How is that "true love" if they don't even care who or what or when?  That is "fake" love.
 
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I think you're kind of misunderstanding what I'm saying.
 
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Posted 16 October 2013 - 01:55 PM ( #26 )

Yes, I can understand that if both don't know too much about each-other, and start a relationship, but only later on realize that there is a "mayor difference" and that the "in love-ness" may fade, since he/she isn't the one you though he/she was.

 

So, yes, you can perhaps not fall in love with everybody, and there may be a select group of people(or maybe only one person) who is good for you, but this doesn't mean you cannot control yourself to not fall in love with someone.

 

 

For example when I meet a girl, I could fall in love with her. But I can tell myself that it is foolish of me to fall in love with someone I barely know.

Another example may be that I am already married, and I learn to know someone else. Any feeling of "in love-ness" I get towards that person I must and can stop.



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Posted 16 October 2013 - 04:03 PM ( #27 )

Love is controllable since it starts out slowly. If you let yourself just fall in "love" with a random person you see, that's really your own fault.

I agree



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Posted 16 October 2013 - 07:27 PM ( #28 )

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Posted 17 October 2013 - 01:14 AM ( #29 )

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Posted 17 October 2013 - 05:55 AM ( #30 )

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I was talking about romantic love, not love for family or pets. I love my family but that's not romantic love.

The wrong person is someone who you're not happy with, who makes you feel bad. Being in an unhealthy relationship is a good reason, not an excuse, to break up. Even if the other person thinks they're a good friend, they may not be.

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Edited by TamaMum, 18 October 2013 - 01:43 AM.
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Posted 17 October 2013 - 05:58 AM ( #31 )

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Posted 17 October 2013 - 12:54 PM ( #32 )


I believe there is a difference between friendly love and romantic love, a difference that is hard to explain, a difference that is not controllable. It's chemistry.
But all the same, people need to care about one another on both levels, as both friends and lovers, if they want a successful romantic relationship.
Personally I think this thread belongs in SNTT if the conversation is going to go down this road. Not that it should, but yeah.

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Posted 23 October 2013 - 05:29 AM ( #33 )

never been in a relationship :P

so yeah, still single, but whatever xD 


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Posted 28 October 2013 - 05:53 AM ( #34 )

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