Tamagotchi Connexion versions 4 and 4.5 have different types of skill points you can earn. People call them by different names. I'm assuming you're talking about Kindness points, represented by a flower.
On a v4.5, you can't get Kindness points. In place of Kindness is Passion/Spiritual. You can raise Passion/Spiritual points by playing Manhole. Any type of points can be raised by playing Climb and Tug-o-war.