I feel heartbroken still... I don't think I can date for a while (unless it's Chip again) which sucks because Valentines Day is coming up and I'll be such a loner ._. that'll be fun.
I try not to miss Chip too much, but he was so great... He knew how to have such a good time... I'm trying to distract myself and stuff, but he keeps coming up. We never even got our first date :'(
I had a relationship a bit over 4 years ago where it lasted 2 years and it was long distance. I was the dumpee as he wanted me to be closer and he felt too far apart to continue it. Thankfully we started out as best friends and through some self relflection and some time to move on from that part, we remain best friends to this day. I went ot his wedding August of 2008 and after that I felt a weight of 4ish years finally come off me of all the past guilt and negative energy that came about when the break up was intitated.
I made the decision early on when i came to Valentine's day to either not celebrate it (just treating it like a normal day) or celebrate it as in how much you love your friends. You don't need a guy for the 14th of February that's for sure. That's what learned. I think a year or two ago when I actually wasn't going to celebrate the day at all I had a bunch of friends hug me and send me emails and letters letting me know how much I mattered in their lives. It meant so much. Perhaps try that to help with your feelings this coming February.
I mean if you don't wanna go to the dance, don't. I mean in my elementary schools if you didn't wanna go you could always be in the classroom catching up on homework. Or do something else productive. I'm pretty sure dances aren't mandatory anywhere. If for some reason it is, ask for your friends to accompany with you so you don't feel as alone. Friends who stick together, stay together :mimitchi:
Overall the others who posted made good points. It takes time. The amount of time you are with someone, you normally spend healing after the relationship is done. In my case it was double that and then some. Let yourself be sad if you have to be, you're allowed. No matter how long it takes, have appreciation for what you do have and if you can totally aim for the friendship thing with "Chip". I mean if he isn't up for it right now, that's fine, my friend Jon had a hard time doing that too at first (probably because of the guilt he had for being the one who did the breaking up), but in the end if you guys started off as friends, you should end it as positive of a note as you can.
Eventually the clouds will break and you'll see blue sky again. Patience is the key. Accept the things you can not change, courage to change the things you can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Good luck!
break up I have ever had. I feel heartbroken because I really liked the guy and we broke up because he lives too far away (only 10 miles away...) and his mom didnt know me. I'm uber depressed feeling....
