hello beckster. l dont really understand what u were saying but here goes.
graduation: (l think its compulsary to attend school at least once a day but lm not too sure) u will receive a [!] mail and get transported to school. then ur teacher will meet u. l cant remember if he passes u a item, but ur tama and its teacher will make sad/angry faces. if u go to tamatown, u should be able to get the grad outfit. yeap the grad takes place in ur tama.
as for the job, just wait. mine got offered a job only a day after grad. my tamas stats were 134 120 157 respectively after grad. thus l dont think stats play a big part in getting a job quicker. try to get ur stats to 80 like what janice said, it will be easier to get employed.
peace