Man... I hate it when my mom and stepdad fight. They fight
CONSTANTLY. In fact, they just had a fight a few minutes ago. My mom usually ends up going upstairs and crying
I really hate it. They got a divorce for a little bit, like a few weeks. I stayed with my aunt for a night or so, and my little sisters were totally freaked out. My mom and dad had a divorce, but they **luckily!** get along still. They're just that couple that are better together as friends than as a couple. It happens... During the second divorce, when I wasn't at my aunt's house, I was at home. My mom stayed upstairs the whole time (she only came down to get food and bring it back up
) and I was miserable. I have to talk to a counselor now.... I'm so messed up from all of my life experiences. >.< I mean, seeing a counselor doesn't mean you're insane, but I'M pretty depressed. I will go see my mom a bit after a fight, and she tells me a while later that she's
really happy that I'm there for her. My stepdad is really mean to me... I was sick these past few days, and all he cared about is whether or not I did my chores! My mom has been asking him to come home early lately, and he's been late. He always misses the train... So I think that's one of the things that they're fighting about. When they fight, I've noticed that my stepdad will let his anger out on me... Always. Since my sisters are 3 and 1, I'm the only one who will be affected by it >.< My mom and nanny have both noticed it. Thankfully my mom will stick up for me and say how helpful I've been. When they fight, they don't watch the kids, so it's up to me to take care of them on the weekends and after the nanny leaves. I'm not saying you should take a side (as that might make matters worse), but it may make one of them feel better.
My stepdad has cheated on my mom with numerous women. That's one of the things that makes my mom so upset. She feels like she's not pretty or anything, and it's really hurting her. It makes me so upset that he would do that. They've been married for about 3 years, and I guess he was cheating on her since they were dating!
So over 2 years... And she didn't know about it. And it wasn't just one woman, it was multiple women. That made me sad, too. =(
It also saddened me when they got a divorce. I would wonder if they would stay divorced. If they did, I would think about my sisters. Would they ever have a "daddy" again? My one sister had already been left by a man... He was our dentist. He cheated on his wife with my mom, and they had my 3-year-old sister. After she was born, he left them. My 1-year-old sister loved her dad (my stepdad). She would smile when he picked her up, and sometimes only let him pick her up. >.< The 3-year-old (who was 2 at the time) loved to play with him. She said (one of the nights I was at my aunt's house) "Where's daddy?" and I started crying. My cousin cried, too. One of the nights I had to sleep with my sister since she wouldn't trust anyone else. That made me cry, too. And I'm not one to just start crying... It made me really sad...
Hopefully your parents will stop fighting. I really don't like how divorce rates are now-a-days... Unfortunately, divorces are one of the things that we can't control. Sometimes people are better apart, like my mom and dad. I remember they would fight a lot, and now my mom and dad are really friendly with each other. But since my dad is moving to California, and he and my stepmom have already put the house on the market, they are REALLY stressed. Now
THEY'RE starting to fight. >.< Sometimes distracting yourself helps. I like to go on the computer and listen to music when they fight. Sometimes I watch TV in my room with the door closed, or I read (with music or something in the background
).
Here are some things that may help:
☻Distract yourself! When they start fighting, go in your room and play a game. Maybe play a video game. If they're in the room that the video games are in, then go get a handheld or something. Maybe try playing with your tamagotchi. Anything that will get your mind off of them fighting.
☻Try going outside or going to a friend's house. Maybe having one of your parents driving you somewhere can let them cool off and stop fighting.
☻Try getting them out of the house. Maybe not them alone, but maybe for a family thing. Go bowling, go mini-golfing, go to a nice restaurant. Something that will get their minds off of the issue, and it might get YOUR mind off it, too.
Those are all of the things that I could think of for now. If you need any other help, PM me. I've gone through this stuff, and I'll be happy to help you! =) I really hope that they stop fighting and that they won't start again!
♪~tk710
