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Someone i know, bout 14, was or still is pregnant or at least she thinks she might be.

teen pregnacy is not good. it can also be a very stressful thing to handle.

Also, just so you know, its not always the mom that keeps the kid.

i dont know much bout the topic...

 
Teen pregnancy is an issue at my high school. It's gotten to the point that people call us "Mount Pregnant" instead of our actual name. Some teen mothers can be good parents, and then you get those who refuse to grow up and will drink and do whatever the hell they want while the baby is being ditched on grandma and grandpa. I think maturity is typically what the issue is with teen pregnancy rather than economic plans. Both are important, but I think if a girl is strong enough and has intuition she'll be able to pull through and figure everything out and get a safe environment for her and the child. The sad truth though is that most of these girls getting pregnant don't have the mindset to do something like this. I'm not going to call teen mom's idiots, but most of them I know are failures academically, have boyfriends who are many years older them who also didn't do well while in high school, are people with some form of addiction like drinking, smoking and sex, and then like to boast about how much attention they get. These people aren't worthy mothers in my eyes. They don't deserve to have children until they figure themselve's out. Having a vice is alright but an addiction is a whole different issue. I know first hand about what happenes when people like this have kids- the children are more likely to be abandoned. Thats like, the whole story to my fathers side of the family. I'm sick of people that don't have the means to have a baby do so anyway, but it isn't my place to say anything about it. All i know is that I frown upon most people even having kids. Teen or adult, you can be a bad parent.

 
hmmm... i see... dumping your child is the worst thing to do. the best thing is to not have a child if your going to ditch it right?

 
My cousin got pregnant in the March of this year. She's 15. I was really surprised when she broke the news to our family and her parents wanted her to have an abortion. It was a very stressful time in the family, but her parents eventually came round to her having the baby. The rest of our family doesen't really want much to do with the baby.

I myself am only against teen mums if they cannot look after children properly or don't have the rights.

 
I think that this is something that is it really difficult to live for teenagers because I guess they are not "ready" for the event <_< . The younger the person is, the less the person is ready :ichigotchi: . I don't think that parents of about 13 or 14 years old have all the necessary maturity and all the assets in life to take care of a baby on their own :huh: . But at about 18 years old of age, some people have everything to take care of a family :) . It is a mix of circomstances,of education and of personality. But seriously, to be able to talk about sexuality with our parents (if they are opened to it) or with a specialist who can help, to take ways of contraception, be mature enough to use they are, to me, essential assets that can avoid lots of surprises :mellow: . Seriously I am almosty 24 years old now and I never got surprises of the kind because I always combined condom with birth control pill. I am really of this decision because I can slowly finish my studies, get to know my boyfriend better before having kids with him, have a solid life situation like to have an house, have a stable work, etc. Think about it, it is better to prevent than to cure... ;)

 
I think people stereotype teenage mothers too much. Everybody seems to think that every teenage mum is irresponsible and will ditch their babies and make somebody else look after them. As this is what happens a lot of the time, it doesn't mean it's the same with everybody. I think it's more about the maturity of a person, and their ability to cope with successfully raising a child. There can be careless mothers at 14, but also at 40. I don't think it has much to do with age.

Although, I do agree sexual intercourse isn't something kids aged around 14 should be going through. They're young, and there's a "legal age" to it for a reason (where I live it's 17, I'm not sure about the rest of you?). I think unprotected sex is even worse, and somebody would be plain stupid to have it when unaware of the consequences it will come with.

But. Don't judge somebody just because they're pregnant. And never make assumptions about the person. You never know if that pregnant 13 year old girl you're giving dirty looks to has been sexually assaulted and has no choice but to have a baby.

 
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I think people stereotype teenage mothers too much. Everybody seems to think that every teenage mum is irresponsible and will ditch their babies and make somebody else look after them. As this is what happens a lot of the time, it doesn't mean it's the same with everybody. I think it's more about the maturity of a person, and their ability to cope with successfully raising a child. There can be careless mothers at 14, but also at 40. I don't think it has much to do with age.

Although, I do agree sexual intercourse isn't something kids aged around 14 should be going through. They're young, and there's a "legal age" to it for a reason (where I live it's 17, I'm not sure about the rest of you?). I think unprotected sex is even worse, and somebody would be plain stupid to have it when unaware of the consequences it will come with.

But. Don't judge somebody just because they're pregnant. And never make assumptions about the person. You never know if that pregnant 13 year old girl you're giving dirty looks to has been sexually assaulted and has no choice but to have a baby.
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your right about that.

 
It bothers me too how people are having sex at younger and younger ages these days but all I'm saying is that those who get pregnant earlier than they expected are not necessarily doomed for life.<--- agreed

 
I feel very strongly about this. I think the "Teen Mom" and "16 and Pregnant" shows glamorize this very serious problem, and some of these girls think that they can get paid around $16,000 and get on TV and become a "star". I'm 55, have been married since the age of 20, and never had a child, even though I own my own home, have a good job, have 3 cars, etc. I kind of wanted a child, but that wasn't in the cards for me. I found out at age 31 that I was sterile. Also, what are these kids thinking? Humans are way over populated, and this creates more people who must find employment when they grow up. I'm sorry, but there are just so many jobs to go around. And the world's economies are in the toilet. What's going to happen to all of these people? Crime and homelessness will become much worse. Not only that, but our forests and other wild places in the world are being lost due to human activities. The world's resources are dwindling. Not a bright future for most, if not all of these kids. I know if I had a teenager (girl or boy), it would not happen, at least not while they lived under my roof. (My roof, my rules). I wish kids would just wise up, and leave sex alone until marriage, or when they are adult enough to understand the consequences.

 
I agree with Ksenia, you can't judge them purely because they're pregnant. My friend got pregnant (but miscarried) at the age of 12 after being raped.

You also can't look at pregnant person and think 'Ew, slut, should have known better'. A lot of girls are very careful, use condoms and are on the pill and only having sex with their boyfriends and still get pregnant. I had a scare when on the pill and using condoms, it can happen to anyone no matter how safe they are.

The only thing I have against it is the really young ones having sex with whoever and not being safe about it. They don't deserve to get pregnant, but they shouldn't believe they're bullet proof because they're not. Plus if you're going to have unprotected sex, don't act shocked if you get pregnant. A little thinking and common sense isn't hard.

Not all teenagers are bad parents. Some do really well and even end up better off than other people who didn't have a child. I have a lot of respect for people who find themselves as teen parents and do the best by their child and themselves and get out the other side successfully. They're very brave in such a harsh, judging society.

 
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I feel very strongly about this. I think the "Teen Mom" and "16 and Pregnant" shows glamorize this very serious problem,
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Have you ever watched either of these shows? If anything, it's pure nightmare fodder. Girls who do glamourize pregnancy can tune in and instead of being excited at the prospect, will realise being a teen mum well and truly sucks.

The shows also focus on issues of domestic violence and depression. Before and after every commercial break there is a PSA on either safe sex or domestic abuse, and where one can go to get help and information. There is nothing glamourous about any of it.

 
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I feel like parents should teach their children about sex at an earlier age and that all schools should provide sex education. Seriously... a lot of the teen mothers that I have met got into that situation because they lacked the proper education.

By the time that I was five I already knew how babies were made, and also about condoms and STDs. Not in an explicit way or anything though, just a biological talk. But it helped me grow more comfortable with the subject of sex and it also made it easier for my parents to continue the with the education as I grew older. So by the time that I became sexually active (which wasn't until I was almost 19), I already knew how to handle things (and was also comfortable asking my dad for advice instead of getting advice from the wrong sources.)

On the other hand... a lot of my friends received little to no sex ed. I even know a guy that thought that condoms were completely ineffective (he was taught this as a way of scaring him out of having sex) so he didn't see any point in using them. Long story short: guy has herpes now.

I'm not saying that people should encourage their kids to be sexually active. But parents need to keep in mind that not all teenagers can lead an abstinent lifestyle.

 
im being as safe as an almost 15 year can go with this: NOT HAVING A REALATIONSHIP!!! if i happend to get a girlfriend she isn't coming to my house. :mellow:

i will do anything for money!!! so thats why i stay out of the way of love.

one of my poor friends is Pregnant! all because she accidently got drunk at a Chirstmas party!

she is only 14-15 yrs old. i wish i was there to stop her... :(

 
Well at least they can look forward to applying for being on 16 and pregnant and teen mom

 
One of my friends was pregnant and had a kid after being raped. my mom took care of the baby for a couple of days then my friend wanted the baby up for adpotion. then the baby got adpoted by this nice couple. kinda sad to see the baby go, but we know that the child is with nice people. PLus she got pregnant after getting drunk at a party. and shes 14, and the age to have sex here is 12, but the legal age is 16 and the legal drinking age is 19. sorry if im explaining it to explicitly. but im just saying.

 
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This is a seriouse topic and i could not agree with you more. I think kids need to become more educated and parents need to step it up!

 
Teen pregnancy? StUpId. These guys just r*** girls to have s** with them. It's so stupid and dissapointing to me.

 
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