As far as your makeup is concerned, try this tip. You have a very fair complexion...I have seen your photos too.....so try using a rich grey/gunmetal color around your eyes as opposed to black. Black around your eyes will be much too harsh for your face. I have very fair skin and hazel eyes, and gunmetal grey is one of my favorite colors to wear around my eyes. Are your eyes hazel or blue? It will be exceptionally pretty in that case!
My favorite grey eyeshadow of all time is a color from Kat Von D called Sixxshooter. It has 2 shades of grey, one dark for accent, and one metallic with small sparkles throughout it. It could easily look very "scene" if applied that way. I wear it for an everyday dramatic effect...if there is such a thing...and I think you should try something like it too.
Good luck on your new look! You are a beautiful young woman, and I think you can pull off most any look if you put some thought into how you do it. ^_^