I must disagree with you. If people should be minded there own business, the world would be a horrible place: murder, theft, rape, etc..(Much more than today).
We must see that people make wrong decisions, and to avoid this there at least has to be a government to stop the more obvious crimes.
Also, why don't you want children? They're truly a blessing and can bring you great comfort when something bad, or not nice happens. If you just don't want a child because you don't want to have the responsibilities you should think about every other parent, and maybe yours in particular(although it could be that you had horrible parents...).
While those are valid topics of concern and by law they are wrong, abortion is not seen under the law as being illegal. In other countries it may very well be, but it would be ethnocentric to tell others "No, no, you can't do that, it's wrong!" Like in the Middle East, there are laws that allow the beating of a wife if that wife is said to be 'unruly' in the marriage. We would see that as wrong and immoral and against the law, but in their culture it's a part of life. Same with genital mutilation. We can not have say in what other people do or choose.
Step back for a moment and think about how you came to your decision. Was it religion? Upbringing? Culture? Shock factors? Education? A combination? All those have influenced who you are and what you believe, and while your emotions are certainly valid, it doesn't exactly make them the one true answer to the question if abortion is right or wrong. Because now we are looking into the ethics behind it, and if you take all that past stuff out of the picture, then there really is, in a sense speaking, no true right or wrong answer at all.
For example we may feel murder is wrong and to persecute those who murder by say, the death penalty. Say you're for it. Now... what if your brother murdered someone? Your father? Your mother? How about your own child in the future? If you were so for the death penalty, would you even consider allowing them to get the same treatment? Or let's turn it back to abortion, if your mother was to have another child, or your girlfriend or wife, and they were ill and the doctor didn't recommend carrying the baby to term, what then? You then risk not only the life of that mother, but also the life of the child if she were to carry it to term, versus just the life of the mother. This very thing happened to a nun who had to make that very decision to save the life of one, or lose the lives of both.
https://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=126985072
In such a case, what would be 'right?' The 'murder' of one, or the 'murder' of both?
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As for the other half you speak of, as I have stated, I have multiple personality and mood disorders. I am unstable. Without my medication I can get abusive in many ways without even thinking about what i am doing. I also have gone so far into the depressive spectrum that I have tried to take my own life on several occasions. Knowing this, would you
really want someone such as myself to be a mother? Would you be comfortable with the idea of a woman who is mentally ill to have children whom she could snap on and possibly even ruin developmentally due to verbal and emotional abuse? (I'm not physically abusive, except in rare cases where I will break inanimate objects.)
Also take into consideration that this all happens when i am not medicated. However, if I were to get pregnant, i would have to go off my meds as it's been shown that bipolar meds, at least what i am on plus my anxiety meds, cause detrimental things to fetuses and babies and in fact it even states in my prescription pamphlets that I need to cease the medication asap if I was to be pregnant.
Also, considering the fact I cannot have nor sustain healthy relationships due to these disorders, and due to the fact I have no real reliable form of birth control, I can't even have the initial stages to even think about having a family. I have been on hormonal birth control before the meds now and it caused me a lot of problems emotionally--mood swings galore and other side effects, no more drive, no interest in whoever i was dating, etc. I cannot go back on it with my meds and it'll cause my meds to not work as well, I could have relapses into states of manic depression again and possibly become dangerous with such a cocktail of chemicals inside me that do not mix well at all. And I am allergic to other conventional forms. This leads to no intimacy in a relationship and it falls apart. unless I were only intimate with the intention of bearing a child, but then and only then. However then we go back up to me getting off my meds, which makes me 'no longer me' and I have had guys leave me because they cannot deal with a bipolar.
When you mix in all these factors, the answer is pretty clear that for me to have a child would be very 'wrong' and detrimental to the health and development of the baby. If something were to happen where I
did get pregnant, it would be a good idea to allow that clump of cells to be removed before it turns into a baby. not only that, when you have a mental illness, there's a four times more likely chance that the child will get it as well.
I feel that my decision is justified with enough concrete evidence to show that for me to be a mother is a 'bad' idea. (I say 'bad' because it depends on a person's definition of 'bad' really is.) Also, due to personal preference, I just overall do not like children. i do not want to contribute another life to this society, I do not like how it is run, I can barely take care of myself mentally and financially as is and therefore I do not need another responsibility that I can not adequately prepare nor accommodate for. Through into the mix that here in the USA, divorce rates are insanely high, and men tend to not stick around to help the mothers--we have a very high rate of single mothers. I refuse to be a part of that, and even refuse to be married due to my lack of trust in people, especially in my own generation and the younger generations.
I also wish to add while it's your opinion that children are a blessing, like I tell others who tell me the same exact words, I would like to say that it is merely your
opinion but is not the be-all-end-all correct
answer. You, nor anyone else, lives my life. I alone live my life, make my own decisions, and my own mistakes. No one, not even my own family, has any right to tell me that i am 'wrong' or that I will 'change my mind.' That alone is for me to reflect upon and decide when the time comes.
I apologize if i sounded rude during all of this, and I sure did have a lot to say, probably too much. I hope I don't regret it later and out of privacy have it removed. Just fair warning. It IS the internet and all, and I don't like to reveal too much that can backlash on me. But note I am not trying to purposefully attack you or anyone, I'm just trying to get you to think about it and realize that really, in the end, people are going to do what they're going to do, and no matter your good intentions, more than likely they will fall on deaf ears. The difference is, one needs to respect the decisions someone else makes. i respect you for being pro-life, more power to you for being a baby saver. But please respect me and my choice of having the choice to begin with.
EDIT: Also to save space, perhaps don't quote my post, yeah? And I really do not wish to turn this into a debate of how and why you think I should bear children. My decision has been made, you cannot change it anymore than I can tell you that no, women have to have the right to choose and that's final. So essentially, it's a draw, there is no 'right' and it's merely just bouncing of opinions that will get us nowhere.