That's a toughy.
Just remember - You've been friends for years. When did this guy come into the picture? As cliche as it sounds, you should put your friends before your crushes. If they're a good friend, they'll stick with you and be by your side, no matter what.
However, your friend is being selfish and a bit unreasonable. If she was set in the right frame of mind, she would be happy for you and your crush getting closer, and back off. The way you described her sets me to think that she's jealous and a bit competitive.
The best thing you can do is sit down and talk to her. Explain to her that you don't want a boy to come between you two - you've been through too much for that! Tell her that if your crush ever askes you out, it could be a big opportunity for you and it's not something you would want to turn down. Show her the converse. If your crush asked her out, would she be willing to turn him down for you? How does she feel to be put in your position?
If she doesn't understand, she doesn't understand, and it's her loss. Eventually she should come around.
I think that this is really good advice. Listen to Cinderpelt
.
Ah...I've had my fair share of experiences like this. I've been in both places, too; yours,
and your friend's. Here's how I have, and would deal, just some tips from experience (sigh
).
For You-Like Cinderpelt said, is this girl really your
best friend if she is throwing everything away over
some guy
?!? Considering that I have acted this way before (when I was younger, and still getting a handle on my feelings) I would suggest that you give your friend some time. She may just be dealing with a bad case of jealously-believe me, I have felt this way too. But don't give her
too much time, though. If she doesn't come around soon and apologize, you may want to start looking for some new and more loyal firends
.
For Her-I'm guessing that your friend
really likes this guy. A lot. She's probably feeling jealous, angry, and completely torn apart. I'm also guessing that she isn't very good at coping with these kind of feelings, considering the way that she's been acting toward you
. This is the wrong way to go, ignoring you the way that she is. Even if she is feeling down in the dumps, the best way for her to act is to hide these feelings for the guy you like, especially if you two get more serious. It is very painful
, but it is worth it. It saves the risk of hurting your friendship.
It is worth it. Have you ever heard the song "Beauty From My Pain"?
However this ends up, good luck to the both of you. Never let a boy come between you and a friend. Remember that
.
