Badger_42
Well-known member
I have read through many many "advice" topics and questions, to which many people answered things like "but going out with them based on looks is shallow". And "no dont go out with them they only like how you look' blah blah blah.
Firstly: 'Going Out' or 'dating' is not EXCLUSIVE. Being someones GF/BF is. You can date as many people as you want at a time as long as your not 'in a relationship' with them.
**So what harm will a date do then? One date, were not talking marraige**
Secondly: If there is no physical attraction, how would that work? You'll have to find them somewhat attractive/astheticly pleasing. If you dont find someone attractive they would probly just be your friend no matter how cool they are, you still have to find them pleasing to the eye.
**This doesnt mean your friends think their hot, what do you actually think**
What I'm saying is that if you deny these people, your being just as shallow as you assume they are (unless you don't find them attractive at all, in which case it's okay!). Maybe they thoguht you looked cool. Who knows. But you will never find out what they are like if you say no.
Friends first? Well for a lot of you youngin's out there in Tamaland saying this blasfamous thing...:
If someone who was really truly your friend, would you really want to date them? Wouldent they be more like a sibling? If you broke up would you be okay with hurting them?
When your an adult its rare that people that are actual friends (and I mean actual friends, the people you call to go to a ball game and play video games, people you hang out with just to be in their company Not Cliques) before dating. More of accaintences. And then it's still based on looks and who seems pretty cool.
So the moral is...
If you are rejecting these people and are serious about dating, I don't know how you ever expect to meet somebody. Your not going to randomly find your best guy friend atractive one day seriously. You know you have a 'celeb crush' and who cares. We are all shallow to some extent, our shallowness no matter how we try to disguise it is what make us have a 'type' and in the end makes us end up with some one we want to touch and look at (no matter how displeasing to everyone else).
**But alas you probly are not serious about dating if you are posting these things. I was just hoping everyone may one day admit that shallowness is in all us**
Firstly: 'Going Out' or 'dating' is not EXCLUSIVE. Being someones GF/BF is. You can date as many people as you want at a time as long as your not 'in a relationship' with them.
**So what harm will a date do then? One date, were not talking marraige**
Secondly: If there is no physical attraction, how would that work? You'll have to find them somewhat attractive/astheticly pleasing. If you dont find someone attractive they would probly just be your friend no matter how cool they are, you still have to find them pleasing to the eye.
**This doesnt mean your friends think their hot, what do you actually think**
What I'm saying is that if you deny these people, your being just as shallow as you assume they are (unless you don't find them attractive at all, in which case it's okay!). Maybe they thoguht you looked cool. Who knows. But you will never find out what they are like if you say no.
Friends first? Well for a lot of you youngin's out there in Tamaland saying this blasfamous thing...:
If someone who was really truly your friend, would you really want to date them? Wouldent they be more like a sibling? If you broke up would you be okay with hurting them?
When your an adult its rare that people that are actual friends (and I mean actual friends, the people you call to go to a ball game and play video games, people you hang out with just to be in their company Not Cliques) before dating. More of accaintences. And then it's still based on looks and who seems pretty cool.
So the moral is...
If you are rejecting these people and are serious about dating, I don't know how you ever expect to meet somebody. Your not going to randomly find your best guy friend atractive one day seriously. You know you have a 'celeb crush' and who cares. We are all shallow to some extent, our shallowness no matter how we try to disguise it is what make us have a 'type' and in the end makes us end up with some one we want to touch and look at (no matter how displeasing to everyone else).
**But alas you probly are not serious about dating if you are posting these things. I was just hoping everyone may one day admit that shallowness is in all us**